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spillywolf:

patron-saint-of-smart-asses:

emeraldboreas:

rubberupandmakedanhowell:

mewsicalmiss:

parentless-suggestions:

Your kid shouldn’t be relieved to know you’re not home. Your kid shouldn’t have to double lock all of their stuff up because they’re scared you might go through it. Your kid shouldn’t have to think “Here comes the screaming” or brace themselves for the worse because you’re angry or stressed. Your kid shouldn’t have a genuine fear of you even being close to touching them. Your kid shouldn’t be afraid of you; your kid shouldn’t be afraid of the thought of you.

If your child is afraid of you, you’re doing something very wrong.

This is so sad because, especially from my experience in the south, fear is what you WANT from kids. It’s the goal. It’s why gentle/respectful parenting is seen as such a joke. If you don’t hit your kid hard enough or yell at them loud enough or make them AFRAID of you, then they won’t respect you, they say. It’s disgusting.

Some parents tell themselves that instilling fear in children is isolated to childhood, and that the relationship will naturally morph into friendship in adulthood.

No, it won’t.

^^^

My experience in the south has thankfully been far different. This kind of parenting is abuse. Kind, gentle parenting where the parents have the ability to control themselves and remain calm is deserving of respect, not angry parenting.

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